Issue with bridesmaid dress?

I have 3 girls. I let them choose the color and style of the dress, and I bought them- $150 each. They were all in agreement and really loved the one they picked. I just found out today that one girl wants to add a halter to the dress. I think this would look so awful. http://www.jessicamcclintock.com/webapp/ That's the dress; how do you think it would look? It's a strech charmeuse fabric, so the color is very unique. I don't know what to do; I would really rather her just buy a different style dress in the same color (I found one for $70). Can I ask for the other one back since I paid? (Even if she pays for the new one). Would it be weird to have 3 girls, and only 2 with matching dresses....Sidenote: I was all for different dresses in different colors, but they picked same color, same dress.Issue with bridesmaid dress?
If they all made that choice then she should keep the dress she got. Because now if the two other girls are wearing the same dress and she is wearing something different, not only will she draw all kinds of attention to herself, but now it would look wierd because two girls have matching and she has different. You should tell her that you are sorry but you like the dress she already has and if she has a problem with it then she shouldnt be in your wedding.Issue with bridesmaid dress?
But she was fine with the dress to begin with - I wonder what's changed? Her mom maybe??



I can understand that perhaps she feels like maybe it might slip off. How about allowing her to add clear straps to hold it up (like the clear bra straps)??



Or maybe it's a modesty thing - about about letting her buy a coordinating shawl that she can wear for everything but the ceremony and pictures. http://www.jessicamcclintock.com/webapp/



But - if it is a huge issue, I would rather her add halter straps in the exact same color than have 2 of 3 dresses same. Jessical McClintock sells ribbons - http://www.jessicamcclintock.com/webapp/ - perhaps you can buy ribbon in the same color as the dress and have it made into a halter. The halter would not be all that noticeable if the color was right. Much better than 2 dresses the same and one different.



HOWEVER... You have been very accomodating - she needs to understand that you tried to make things work for everyone, and this is what they agreed to and must live with.



Truthfully, she really ought to just live with it as is and use dress tape if she is worried.
tell her to try a diffrent one dont let her put a halter on that thing!
I like the dress the way it is, why did you pay for the dresses? It is up to them if they can't afford it you can help with the cost. No You get to chose color ,style, the girls need to look the same. the same color for all the girls are better, maybe a different color for the maid of honor. Work with the girls, remember it's your day be happy, good luck!
Let her add the halter. I do not think it goes with the style, and you have been the one footing the bill...so I understand why you are upset.



However, it really isn't going to make much difference, for the guests I mean. People will probably not even notice. Just let her do it. Tell her that the straps need to match the fabric. Let it go, you will feel much better.
I think perhaps she is just having a problem with the dress.

Is she big busted? Does the dress not stay up? Is the bust size of the dress not compatible with her size? Larger or smaller. Perhaps she is wearing an ill fitting bra?



I think that as they all picked the same dress %26amp; colour that you should stick to it... but if its really going to be a problem IE: the dress not staying up or her feeling uncomfortable then I think a slight modification wouldnt hurt.



If YOU are happy with a different dress then by all means go ahead. Ask for the original one back %26amp; if you cant get a refund then ask her for the money for it. You can pay for the $70.00 dress if she gives you the money back.
That's really crummy of her to pull this and you are completely within your rights to tell her to suck it up and wear it. But if you want to keep everyone happy, maybe you could let her trade the dress for one with a different top? I only say this because I saw this dress on the site and it's so similar that it would look like part of the set.



http://www.jessicamcclintock.com/webapp/



But in general, if she agreed to it she shouldn't just take it upon herself to make a halter for it.
when did weddings become all about what the bridesmaids want. your getting married. you pick the dress and the are supposed to where whether they like it or not. thats they way it goes. you were very generous to let them choose and then pay for their dresses. i would tell her NO.
halter will look okay, but not as nice as the original. talk to a dress maker about ways to alter each dress to make it individual?



e.g. one halter, one with spaghetti straps on one side, and the other as is.
I agree with you about the halter... maybe just explain to her that you think it would make the dress too busy! You ARE the bride, just be nice about it :)
That's a pretty dress. I think the problem is probably the fit. It probably feels as if it is falling. Talk to her and tell you'd rather she didn't and try to find out if that is the problem. If it is a good foundation garment will help and of course double sided tape.
I think that you should calmly tell the girl that you would rather she not attach a halter. Explain to her about the fabric. Don't buy a new dress: you let them pick, you bought what they wanted, and its over. They picked it...and she shouldn't go there. (You know what I mean?) Explain to her your reasons, and then move on. Because I'm sure you have more troublesome things to worry about. Congrats on your wedding!

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Im sorry but with that dress id say it would look retared to have 1 not match! id tell her that they already picked the dress so they need to deel with it, its your wedding if you font liek how it looks tell them NO!!
maybe she could have clear elastic halter staps. like jelly bra staps. so you can't hardly see them but she will be more comfortable
I think it would look funny to put a halter on it because it's a beautiful dress without it. I don't think she should get a completely new dress because it would look strange if the other two girls matched and she didn't. Plus she would draw a lot of attention if she got another dress. She should just wear the original dress because it gorgeous.