How do you respond to sis's comment about dress sizes?

Ok, so I asked a question yesterday about being in my sister's wedding: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>


But I have other to ask on top of it. What would you do if your sister told you this? That I needed to make sure I ordered the right size dress for HER wedding, because the dress I wore in our brother's wedding didn't fit me right. I (apparently) had ';back fat'; where the strapless dress sat at the hips. And she said even though it's not noticable in the pictures, she noticed it and doesn't want me looking like that for her wedding! Ok, I just had a baby 9 months before his wedding. I was extremely happy to have lost all the baby weight and was back into a size 6 dress! I made sure to work out so i didn't have to pay much for alterations. She told me i should've gotten an 8 and had it taken in properly! The bridesmaid dress for her wedding is an almost identical style to my bro's wedding. I bought a 6- it fits perfectly! (even though I JUST had another baby in October!) Unfortunately, she seems to think (she hasn't even seen it on me by the way) that it will be too small and keeps questioning me if it fits right! What the heck! What, does she want me to go anorexic for her wedding! Sheesh!





I asked the bridal shop lady about how the dress fits on me and explained the puckering that was in the previous dress that my sis so kindly pointed out. She explained that because of the dress style, boning, and being stapless, the dress will fit like that and it is not an issue due to body shape and weight of the dress. I tried to tell my sister this, but she blew me off. I'm about ready to pin it up really tight for her wedding so it looks hideous on me! LOL How do I deal with this?How do you respond to sis's comment about dress sizes?
I read your other question too just now. And I know you're concerned that her wedding be perfect, especially since your mom isn't around to help her, and I'm sure she wants the same, but...you can't stretch yourself out to your last nerve over this, or you won't enjoy your sister's wedding and might even feel a bit resentful about it.





And you know, if she has something set in her brain that can't be dislodged, then don't worry about compromising or anything else. Tell her you had the dress professionally fit, and say nothing else. She sounds a bit OCD, and since this is her wedding, even if you could get her mind off of the dress it would probably settle onto something else you could be doing wrong. You just do what you can and know that her wedding will be an exciting day whether she liked the photo of you at your brother's wedding or not. And chances are, she isn't going to be obsessing over your dress on the big day anyway.





Good luck, and congratulations to your sister!How do you respond to sis's comment about dress sizes?
i'd drop out, i've dropped out of weddings for less b.s. than that





or i'd be a spitefulbitch and say, ';hey i didn't say anything about how fat your wedding dress makes you look';
Ask your sister to discuss the issue with the person you spoke to at the bridal shop. Let HER set sis straight. Geeze. I'd KILL to be a size 6! Congrats on the new baby and forget about what sis has to say.
Tell her if she don't like the way the dress fit that find someone else because she should be reasonable..But she is a Guerrilla Bride...Never step on brides toes when they are planning there wedding I should know...been there.
Ignore her. Some people are just haters.
Tell her you're going to wear Spanx or something similar under the dress (but don't, this is just to shut her up.) If it were me, I would have dropped out over yesterday's question's details!
To be honest, skimming through your first question and then reading this one, I'd either bow out or have a long chat with her. There's way too much wrong here (although the worst is your question from yesterday), and as her sister, you and stepmom are not supposed to be hosting her shower. Sure, you can help, but a friend is supposed to do this. If she has no friends, perhaps it's time to wonder why!





Seriously, this is becoming way too much drama and it's going to take a toll. Set boundaries with her, and fast.
well to give the other side. It doesn't sound like she is telling you to loose weight, but to order the right size for the weight you are at now. I sew and was in the bridal business. a plain strapless dress should not pucker if fit correctly. Undergarments may help this. A good bra or a body briefer can give you a smoother line under the dress.
I've a great idea for that silly bi*ch, how dare she first of all...anyways my idea, the morning of her wedding i'd pack myself with cushions to make yourself look fat and the look on her face would be priceless!!!!! Or go into all the photos and ruin them by not smiling at all!!!! Or dont bother being bridesmaid the morning of the wedding just drop out and she'll go mad....then you have her by the balls and make her apologise about her comments and if she does'nt dont do it and if she apologises then join the team....aaaaaarrrrrrrrggghh what a condescending bit*h
I would tell your sister that body fat is distributed on each person differently and even though you are thin that you carry more weight in the back apparently in her opinion and its not your fault that she picked an identical style dress as your brother's wedding dress was. If she really didn't want you looking 'like that' she should have been cognizant to pick a dress that would be more flattering to your figure. Tell her that you do work out, that you ordered the dress in the size that was professionally recommended by the bridal consultant after taking your measurements. Kudos to you for wearing a size 6 after having two babies. I haven't been a size 6 since before any of the kids were born. Don't sweat the small stuff, your sis is being a bridezilla and maybe a bit of a diva too!
She just wants to know that you look good in the dress, fit is a big part of this. Don't take it so personally, assure her the dress fits, be done with it.
A dress that fits properly makes flattering figures. Some women think that by wearing a smaller size they become smaller, when in reality they make women looked like overstuffed sausages and no one likes busted zippers on the wedding day; it happens in almost every wedding! Perhaps your sister is trying to save herself a headache and last minute sewing in the bathroom for any of her BM. It is sensible to advice on alterations and well fitted gowns.





Wear Spanx and solve all of your problems. It smooths all lines and conceals any unsightly bumps and undie lines. It simply makes you look better wearing any sating/clingy gowns.





No need to buy a dress bigger and pay a fortune on alterations, that's how the bridal shops do it to make more money.








Good luck
YOu are being totally unreasonable. First off 140 is a good price for a BM dress. 115 is kinda high but the lowest prices ive seen are 79-99 so 115 is like mid range at a bridal shop. Have you asked her to pay for her neices gift as her bridal party gift thats what i did for my niece.





Also rember you are her OLDER sister so you should be helping her out with out complaints asking you to help with invites you should do as most girls have there mother do this with them. Being in a bridal party and the older sister of the bride i would be embarrassed not to help my little sisters.





I am pretty sure what your sister ment was you didnt get your dress altered for your brothers wedding and BM can look a mess if there dress isnt alter right. Maybe you could ask your sister to cover alterations as your bridal party gift.